20 Frolo Questions: Graham Mulcahy, Single Father

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Graham has been a co-parent for 14 years and lives in Ireland with his new partner.

  1. How long have you been a frolo?

I’ve been a single father and co-parent for fourteen years and I’ve been part of the Frolo community for just over six months – but I only really started to get actively involved when lockdown hit.

  1. Tell us a bit about your frolo family.

I have an 11-year-old daughter and a 14-year-old son who both live in different parts of Ireland with their mothers. I had two relationships in the last 14 years and had a child in each relationship. Sadly, both relationships broke down.  

  1. How do you manage a work-life balance as a single parent?

It has been difficult, as I can only see my children at the weekend but weekends are also my busiest time for work. So I have had to sacrifice work to see my children.

Money comes and goes but children are for life and I would not change a single thing. My kids are my world and I would do anything for them.

  1. What do you like to do when you have time away from your kids?

Cycling, walking and work mostly.

  1. What do you like about the Frolo community?

I like how there is someone for everyone; someone to help them through what ever situation they are dealing with.

  1. Describe parenthood in three words.

Rewarding, unconditional, and tough.

  1. What advice would you give your younger self?

Be more careful when choosing the things and the people in your life.

  1. Best parenting advice you’ve ever received?

That someday your kids will have their own voice and mind to choose what’s right for them.

  1. Who or what is your greatest love?

Helping people.

  1. Where is your happy place?

Anywhere with people.

  1. Is there a book you’d like to recommend to other frolos? A podcast?

Not really my thing – sorry !

  1. What is your motto/mantra for life?

I’m a big believer in the “Seven Ps”: Proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance.

  1. What is your greatest achievement?

That I have been able to be part of my children’s lives.

  1. Any regrets?

Not getting to have the family life I dreamed of as a kid.

  1. Biggest life lesson?

Learn to listen, not react.

  1. Last time you laughed hard?

With my current partner at my 45TH birthday.

  1. Last time you cried?

Last week. Being in isolation on my own – with no kids, no partner, no one to hug, and no human contact – is tough.

  1. What song would you add to the Frolo playlist?

Elbow – One Day like This.

  1. What advice would you give to someone just starting out on their single parent journey?

I’d advise them to be patient and considerate; to always be aware that there are two sides to a story, and to remember that it’s ok to ask for help.

  1. What have you learned about yourself through being a single parent?

I’ve learned that I have a compassionate side, that it’s along road ahead, and not to be so hard on myself!

Thanks for answering our Frolo Questions Graham!

Graham co-hosts our weekly Frolo Cocktail Hour every Friday at 9pm. Head to the app to find out more.

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